Thursday, February 4, 2010

Men & Women, Maybe Part I?

Another thought equals another post. I've always questioned why women are the way they are. Lets not get confused, I love women; life would not be the same without them. However, why are they so confusing at times? I feel like there are times the smallest or most insignificant disagreements turn into something so much more. Now, they definitely do have a point sometimes, I'm not going to take that away from them, because for the longest I've always admitted that women are smarter than guys. But I think I need to change that comment and say "men are lazier than women". Women put time and thought into what they do and say, men don't. Men sit back, look at the situation, try to fix it immediately and move on. Now while I agree with the moving on part, the quick-fix portion isn't always the smart move. Sometimes we have to take time and figure out the correct words or the proper tactic to deal with the situation at hand. It's not that men aren't capable of doing that, its just we don't like to. Simple said, yeah, you probably want a more in depth reasoning of why, but there really isn't one. But thats why I like the male's thought process in the end, its very simple: If we don't like something, we say we don't like it, if we do, we say we do. Women like to draw things out and in my opinion, sometimes makes things worse. When haven't you had a negative thought in your head and the longer you let it linger, the worse it gets? I know I have, I'm not ashamed to admit it. But I've also done the opposite, I try to be as positive and optimistic as possible, or where I can be. Oh yeah, this post is probably going to be all over the place, so please forgive me for it. You can already tell its going to be that way since I wrote that disclaimer in the middle lol. But since it's Valentine's Day season and all that love is in the air, I just had to comment on it. I don't really have anything against V-Day, but I do have a few issues against it. I just hate the idea that men have to always do something "big". I feel like V-Day is a glorified date night, because usually on a date, we have to plan/pay/impress the woman in our life, V-Day just adds an extra $50-100 dollars on to the tab lol. Now, I've heard the plea of, its not about the money but the actual thought that you put into it, because anyone can make a dinner reservations, but how can you make the day special. I agree, it's all about making the day special like planning something out the ordinary, it's possible that it won't cost you much but there is always a chance that it might still lol. I've actually been told that V-Day isn't about the woman but both parties, however while I can see and understand that ideal, I can understand how BS it is as well because for the last 20 years of my life (I'm 24, but my earliest memory of V-Day is giving those lil' cards and candy in school), it has always been about what the girl can get out of it. Just because you do something nice for the guy on V-Day doesn't mean his mind has been changed about the entire holiday. It's definitely a nice gesture that should be repeated and copied by every other woman, but you can understand why we are skeptical, you know, with the history of the day and all. It seems as this post is just a cluster of thoughts about the differences between men and women, which is cool with me. So I think I'm going to end it with this thought: Be aware of how you come off to your significant other, because while you might think the way you are approaching them is right, it could be 100% wrong. If you wouldn't want that, why would you in turn do it to them. And lastly, LADIES, the man will usually always let you win, but there are times that he feels like he has to win because being the man that he is, he can only "lose"so many times, so while you might get all crazy about something small, if its not life changing/threatening, please just let it go. Until next time.

P.S. Thank you to the commenter on my last long post, its nice to know I got someone who goes through the same thing.


Anonymous said...

Well be happy you don't have to celebrate vday this year!

Dot Tha Great said...

Oh but I do

Anonymous said...

I think these 2 comments are funny, just so you know. I think many things have to be taken into account when it comes to romantic relationships.

1. If you are getting a lot of flack from your sig other, you should ask that person where all the attitude/animosity is coming from. That may help your perspective on things in the future.

2. If you're having seemingly unnecessary arguments, I think sometimes you just have to take control. She may just be testing you. Every girl wants someone who will just shut ish down and say enough is enough. Nothing too crazy, but taking charge and laying down the law can be quite an impressive/attractive quality in a man. I think if you do that once, you'll be good for life.

3. When it comes to V-Day, in my opinion it's an opportunity to do the little things you've been meaning to do or just be a little more creative than usual. I hate that males get put under so much pressure. Maybe if you're feeling like it's all about the benjamins then say you expect the same thing in return. Nobody ever said the holiday was only for ladies.

Ok, that's all I got. Good luck and keep ya head up homie.